A Problem Amir Had

Final Post: Problem

A constant struggle Amir has to face is standing up for himself and becoming a man, in his young childhood his father always wondered why he wasn’t athletic and saw him as a weak boy who couldn’t stand up for himself. His father was known all across the village, and he was well respected. Baba always gave to the needy, and had a generous warm heart, but if anyone got on his bad side Baba wouldn’t hesitate to stand up for himself and prove who’s wrong. Baba said “A boy who can’t stand up for himself becomes a man who can’t stand up to anything.”(22) I guess that’s was a reason for his struggle of becoming a man and being able to live up to Baba’s high expectations. Amir always had Hassan to help him or have his back if anybody tried to mess with them. Because Amir’s father sees this as a big flaw that he constantly notices, it puts Amir’s confidence down and leaves Amir’s constantly wanting Baba’s approval.

I know a friend who came out of the closet a few years ago, since he was 12 he always had feelings that he wasn’t in the right body and was never comfortable with his features. After a few years of hiding his makeup and burying girl clothes he finally got fed up and wanted to come out, both of his parents were shocked and needed a little while to intake all of the information. His mother was understanding and came through, but his dad never really did. Of course his dad still loved him but once the makeup and clothes came out he went back behind the scenes. To this day they are still trying to get through to a better relationship. And I just like with Amir and Baba they had a rocky relationship. Baba always noticed Amir’s flaws and looked heavily down upon them. Amir was never fully able to man up until Baba passed away, and I hope doesn’t end up happening with my friend and his father.